How To Deal With Your Temper

       Do you lose your temper quickly?

       When you’re caught in traffic, do you lose your cool?

       Do you have shouting matches with your spouse?

       Do you yell at your kids often?

       Do you use degrading language?

       Do you not speak to people you’re angry with for days, weeks, or even months?

       If your answer is “Yes” to some of these questions, then you have a problem with patience. And you need to hear what I’m going to say today.

       Here’s my big message for you today:  Impatience means you lack trust in God. Many times, you’re impatient because you take matters in your hands. If you want to be patient, learn to take matters into God’s hands. (If you don’t understand this yet, it’s okay. By the end of this article, you will.)

       Let me tell you about two men who were blowing their top…

Two Very Angry Brothers

       I love this very human story.

       Jesus was being rejected by a Samaritan Town. And James and John were so angry at them, they asked, Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them? (See Luke 9:52-56)

James and John were so angry, they wanted to massacre an entire town. They wanted to kill men, women, and children. Including cute babies.  Fry them all to a crisp.

In the brothers’ minds, it was their right to be angry.   To them, this was righteous anger.   Why? These Samaritans were making the most horrendous mistake of their lives. They were rejecting Jesus, the Son of the Living God.

       So they said, “Kill ‘em, Lord!”

       Here’s an important point: An angry person always thinks it’s his right that he should get angry. In his mind, it’s perfectly justifiable.

       But what did Jesus do?

       He rebuked them.

       Perhaps he said to them, “Look guys, once upon a time, you were hard-headed too. You were as obstinate and foolish as they were. But God didn’t throw fiery comets at you. He was patient with you.  You should do the same.”

Where Does Your Impatience Come From?

Let me tell you another story.

One day, a husband and wife were at home eating breakfast.

Right in front of the wife was their window, and through it, she could see her neighbor hanging clothes in the clothesline.

“Look at those clothes! Their dirty!” she told her husband. “Does she even use detergent? My goodness.”

The next day, as they sat at the table eating breakfast, she saw the same scene again. She said, “I can’t believe how dirty those clothes are. Someone has to teach that woman how to do the laundry!”

And for the next few days, she kept criticizing her neighbor.

But after a month, as they ate breakfast, she looked through the window and was surprised to see very white, clean clothes. “It’s a miracle!” the wife told her husband, “Our neighbor finally learned how to wash clothes!”

The husband smiled. “Not really. Finally, this morning, I cleaned our windows…”

Patience is not an external problem. 

Patience is always an internal problem. 

Circumstances don’t cause your impatience. Traffic doesn’t cause your impatience. Your unruly child doesn’t cause your impatience.

You cause your impatience.

You need to wash your windows.

Where Does Your Impatience Come From?

Impatience comes from your desire to control things that you have no control over.

James and John wanted to control the Samaritans. When they couldn’t, they got angry.

When you tell little Junior, “Take a bath!” and he dillydallies, you get impatient because you’re not in control.

When a mammoth traffic builds up, you get impatient because you’re not in control.

When the lines in the mall are extra long, you get impatient because you’re not in control.

Don’t get me wrong. The desire to control, by itself, isn’t bad. God gave you the power to control a few things.   For example, parents need to be in control of their home. And managers need to control their companies.

You just need to know the difference between what you can control and what you can’t…

What Do You Control?

       There are two Areas in your life: The Area of Control and the Area of Concern. You need to know the difference.

       Your Area of Control is very small compared to your Area of Concern. At the end of the day, you can only control one thing: Yourself. 

Many times, you can’t control the stimuli around you. But you control your response to that stimuli.

Stephen Covey says that between stimuli and response, there’s a gap. That gap is your power.

Here’s one example.

What’s Your Response To People’s Faults?

Question: Are you surrounded by people who have faults?

If you are, then you need to listen to this verse from the Bible:Make allowance for each other’s faults…(Colossians 3:13) 

You can’t control people’s faults. But you can control your response to those faults.

How? Expect imperfection. Do this one thing and you’ll remove many of your frustrations. Your relationships will be happier.

Learn to live with the imperfection of people.

Speaking about imperfection, let me share about my marriage…

My Marriage Is Fantastic

I have a fantastic marriage. Not perfect. But fantastic.  Reason?  My wife and I have accepted each other’s imperfections. 

For example, it takes me 5 minutes to get dressed. 

But it takes my wife two hours. 

In the first three years of our marriage, this fact bothered me so much. 

I’d sit in the car, enduring the agony of waiting for her. I’d grip the steering wheel so hard, if it weren’t made of steel, it would have become a pretzel. I’d grit my teeth, muttering to myself, “Why in the world does she take so much time?” 

But for ten years now, the situation has totally changed.

Mind you, she didn’t change.  She still takes 2 hours to dress.

But I’ve changed. I’ve washed my window. I’ve accepted that as part of marrying a beautiful woman.

So what if we’re a little late? It’s not the end of the world.

Oh yes, I still sit in the car and wait for her. But I no longer endure it. I enjoy it. I enjoy the quiet. When she finally gets in the car, I say, “Hi, gorgeous…”

       One more example…

How Do You Respond To Traffic

You can’t control the traffic.  (Unless you happen to work as a traffic cop.)

       Traffic belongs to your Area of Concern.

What can you control? You can control your response to the traffic.   Are you going to blow your top or are you going to enjoy the traffic?  That’s up to you.

Call me crazy, but I’ve learned to enjoy traffic. When there’s traffic, I take it as a gift from God to slow me down. To chat with the other passengers. To listen to an inspiring audiotalk. To plan for a project. And if I’m not driving, to catch up on my reading.

If you want to become a patient person, you need to do 3 very important things…

Emergency Steps: Stop, Look, & Listen

If you have problems with your temper, and you feel your anger brewing within you, you want to Stop, Look, and Listen.

Step 1: Stop

Are you about to explode?

Count one to ten.

Count one to ten thousand if necessary. 

The important thing is to stop what your anger wants you to do at that precise moment.  (I know of a few people who’re in jail now because they obeyed their anger.)  

I know stopping isn’t easy. Someone told me it’s like stopping a landslide when the rocks are already falling.

In psychology, they call this a “pattern interrupt”. Do something so unexpected, it’ll short-circuit your brain pattern. Take a walk. Go out and exercise. Slap yourself. Laugh!

Close your eyes, inhale, and breathe in God’s Love.

Visualize you’re in a lovely beach or forest or mountaintop.

Most of all, pray.

That’s what I mean by “Stop”.

Don’t obey your anger. Don’t send that angry email. Don’t send that angry text. Don’t shout that angry word. 

Believe me, if you do, you’ll regret it forever.

You’ll Regret Saying Your Angry Words

I read a story of a boy who had a bad temper. 

His father told him, “Son, every time you’re angry, get a nail and hammer it on the fence.” 

The son did as instructed.

On the first day, he hammered 37 nails on their wooden fence. But as the days went by, he hammered fewer nails each day. He realized it was easier to tame his anger than hammer nails.

Finally, a day came when he didn’t hammer a single nail. The boy went to his father and told him the good news. “Dad, I’m able to control my anger already.”

The father said, “Congratulations son. I’m happy for you. Come, let’s remove the nails from the fence.”

As the son pulled out the last nail from the wooden fence, the father said, “Son, do you see what I see?”

“Nail holes,” the son said, “Lots of them.”

The father looks him in the eye and says, “Son, next time you want to say angry words, remember this fence. Even if you apologize later, angry words leaves a scar in the hearts of people. Even if you’re forgiven, that scar remains for a long time.”

Just stop.

The Bible says, Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19-20)

Here’s the second step…

Step 2: Look

Look for God in the difficult situation.

Specifically, look for God’s Love.

Look for Him loving you at that moment of testing.

Look for His Presence in this irritating situation or annoying person.

One day, my flight to Cebu was delayed for 4 hours. 

When the announcement was made over the loud speakers, everyone around me in the airport grumbled loudly. And the complaining didn’t stop. About missed meetings. About lost time. About being stuck in the airport.

Delayed flights aren’t in my Area of Control. It’s in my Area of Concern. And I repeat, anything in my Area of Concern are things I need to entrust to God’s Love. I need to believe that God is doing something behind the scenes, working all things for my good. (Romans 8:28)

So I had a totally different reaction.

I closed my eyes and smiled. I saw God in that situation. In my mind, God was giving me an unexpected 4-hour vacation. 

I was like a little kid on Christmas, excited to open a huge gift-wrapped box.  I read my book; made new friends; wrote a new article; called up my wife; I even walked around the airport for my daily exercise.

It was a beautiful surprise gift from God.

I loved it so much, when I have a flight today, I sometimes secretly wish it were delayed. 

So just in case you have a flight, and it gets delayed, look for me in the airport. (Sorry, my wishes are powerful.)

Finally, the third step…

Step 3: Listen

Listen to God’s instructions.

Ask the big question: What’s the wise thing to do? 

       Some people think being patient means being passive.

Not true. You can be patient and proactive at the same time.

One day, my friend was in a bank with a very long line. How long? He said he was waiting in the cue for 30 minutes. And all the customers were complaining. 

       Instead of grumbling like everyone else, my friend respondedwith action. He looked for the manager, and simply (patiently) asked if she could add tellers.

       She actually did. She added two more tellers—and instantly, that one long line became three short lines.

       In your Area of Control, you control. But in your Area of Concern, you influence.

       How? Through patient action.     

       Let me give you another example of patient action…

A Word To Parents With Temper Problems

Are you a parent with a short fuse?

Let me guess. So far, your temper has been a disaster. It hasn’t worked. Your anger has failed in training your kids.

You’ve learned that no amount of shouting works.

So here’s my suggestion. Change your strategy.

Let me give you God’s wisdom.

I read Kevin Leman’s book, Have A New Kid By Friday. He gives fantastic advice. Basically, he tells parents not to get angry when kids misbehave. 

He explains why…

Children Don’t Listen To Anger,

They Listen To Action

Let me give you an example from Kevin Leman.

4-year old Julio is at the back of the car, throwing a temper tantrum. He screams, “I hate you Mommy!”

Mommy, instead of using anger, uses action.

A few minutes after they arrive home, Julio goes to the kitchen. He looks for his milk and cookies—and it’s not there.  At that point, his quiet world is discombobulated.  Because kids are creatures of habit. Every afternoon, Mommy always prepares milk and cookies. 

So Julio goes to his mother and asks, “Mommy, where are my milk and cookies?”

Very calmly, mommy says, “No milk and cookies today.” She then turns around and walks away. (This step is very important.)

Little Julio runs after her. (Kids always do.) He asks, “Why Mommy? Why? Why? Why?”

This is a teachable moment. This is when he is actually open to what Mommy has to say.   She says, “Because I didn’t like what you did in the car. You had a temper tantrum. (Mommy acts it out just to make it clearer to the little guy.) And you said, ‘I hate you, Mommy.’ That hurt me very much.”

By this time, little Julio is bawling, “I’m so sorry Mommy! I won’t do it again.”

Mommy says, “I forgive you, Julio.” She hugs him.

That’s when Julio whimpers, his big eyes filled with giant tears, “Mommy, can I have my milk and cookies now?”

Here’s the secret sauce of this powerful action. Mommy says, “No milk and cookies today. You’ll have it tomorrow.”

Believe me, Julio will never forget the lesson.

Why? Because kids don’t listen to your anger. 

They listen to action. 

And you only have to do this once or twice. He’ll never throw another temper tantrum again.

Let me end…

Relax And Trust In God’s Love More

       I repeat: Impatience comes from lack of trust in God’s Love.

       How come? You become impatient because of a desire to control things you have no control over.

But where does this desire to control come from?

Sometimes, it comes from love. A genuine concern for others.

But many times, it comes from fear.

I’ve noticed that many times, subconscious fear is the fuel of our impatience. 

And our greatest fear is the fear of worthlessness.

I know that sounds deep.

But it’s really very simple.

Often, the fear of worthlessness causes your impatience.

Let me give you an example.

One day, a mother came up to me and shared to me her total frustration with her daughter. She said, “Her grades are so bad. She spends hours on the phone. And she looks horrible with her black lipstick and black nail polish. Her boyfriend looks like smelly bum. Oh Bo, there’s not a day when I don’t shout at her!”

I asked her this question. “Why are you angry?”

“Because… because she’s not acting right! I mean, what will others say? That I’m not a good mother?”

Aha. There lies the real reason for her rage.

The fear of “what other people will say…”

In other words, it’s the fear of social death.

It’s the fear of worthlessness that’s driving her anger.

       That is why, I believe that the ultimate solution to impatience is trusting in God’s Love.

       When you know you’re totally, completely, and absolutely loved by God, you know there’s nothing else to prove. 

       You relax.

       Impatience drains out of your system.

       Why was I so angry at my wife because her long preparation time? When I dug deeper, I realized that it was because I was afraid of people telling me, “Bo is late for our meeting. What a terrible example…”

       But then the switch came in my heart. When I realized I was totally, completely, and perfectly loved—I knew I was whole. I didn’t need anyone’s good opinion about me to make me whole.

       There was nothing to prove. I found I no longer cared about what other said about me. Fear was gone. I began to relax in God’s Love. And my impatience vanished as well.

       Because perfect love casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).

      

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

You’re God’s Unfinished Project

Have you noticed?

We like starting things but we don’t finish them.

Bestselling author John Maxwell likes sharing this example. He said if you go to a fitness gym in January, you can’t park your car. Because the parking lot is full. 

After waiting for 30 minutes, you finally park. 

But when you enter the gym, you’re shocked to see a throng of sweating humanity—like it was a mall’s midnight sale.

You walk up to the front desk and complain. “My gosh, there are so many people! First of all, I couldn’t park my car. Second, there are three people waiting in line in front of each treadmill. You need to make the gym bigger and put more exercise machines!”

The girl behind the desk smiles and says, “Sir, please come back in February and it’ll be totally different.”

In February, you return—and you can’t believe your eyes. 

First of all, you park right in front of the door.

You walk in the gym—and it’s very quiet!

Why does this happen?

Because it’s easy to start but it’s difficult to finish.

You don’t even have to look at the gym.

Do you have an exercise machine in your home? Ab-Flex. Stair-Master. Sky-Rider. Treadmill. Stationary Bicycle. Dumbbells. Yoga Mats. Hoola-hoops. Skipping Ropes. Boxing gloves.

Is it gathering dust? You’re not alone.

According to statistics, 97% of exercise machines are not being used 3 months after their purchase.

Because it’s easy to start but it’s difficult to finish.

       My friend even built a swimming pool in his house worth millions. He imagined doing 50 laps in it everyday. But when I talked to him, the last time he “lapped” was 12 months ago.

But God is different.

When He starts a project, He finishes it. The Bible says, He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:6)

All Success Is About Finishing What You Started

Friend, you’re God’s project. 

He started something good in you.

And He’ll never give up on you. 

People may give up on you, but your God will never give up on you. He’ll complete what He started in you.

Oh yes, like any work in progress, you don’t look rather nice now. You look messed up. Your life isn’t working.

But don’t give up. That’s because God is still working in you.    Stay on course. As the Bible says, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:17)

       All success is about finishing what you started.

       Whether that be in exercise, diet, marriage, business, or even our spiritual life.

       When I was 15 years old, I had a friend who served God with me. Lets call him Raul. Raul and I were in one youth team, giving spiritual seminars together all over the country. While I gave the talks, Raul played the guitar and led the singing. For years, we served together.

But one day, Raul started missing our prayer meetings. He said work got busy. Soon, he just dropped out. I didn’t know where he went. (No facebook then!)

       Years later, I was shocked to learn that Raul became a gambling addict. His wife left him, bringing his kids with her. 

       Raul started well but he didn’t finish well.

       Success is not how you start, it’s how you finish. But the one who endures to the end will be saved. (Matthew 24:13)

Life Isn’t A Sprint

Decades ago, when I was young and foolish (now I’m just…uh, young), I joined a 400-meter race. 

Because I thought I was a fast runner. As a kid, running was my only weapon against school bullies. But in truth, it was the first time I ever joined a real running race. 

       When I heard the blast of the starting gun, I leapt out like a firecracker. I ran full speed. And I led the entire pack!  I made them eat my dust.  I was ecstatic. Delirious. In fact, I began to pity the 7 runners with me. How can they be so slow?

       But I was still far from halfway when my legs began to buckle under me. My lungs were ready to explode. And I fell headlong like I was diving in a pool.

       My wrists and knees were bleeding, but I scrambled back on my feet. I ran again. That is, if you could call what I did running. Because every ebb of strength in my body had vanished.   I could barely put one foot in front of the other.

       Needless to say, I lost the race.

I didn’t only lose, I was the last guy to cross the finish line.

       In fact, by the time I arrived the finish line, the other runners had showered and were eating their snacks. (Okay, that’s an exaggeration, but it sure felt like it.)

       I started strong. I finished wrong.

Lesson?  Scoreboards don’t remember who started strong. Scoreboards only remember who finished strong.

Because life is not a sprint. Life is a marathon.

Marriage isn’t a sprint. Marriage is a marathon.

Starting a business isn’t a sprint. It’s a marathon.

Building your Investments isn’t a sprint. It’s a marathon.

Building a friendship, or serving a ministry, or taking care of your health, or strengthening your relationship with God isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon.

This same thing happens in real life. Some people start strong, but finish wrong.

One guy comes to mind…

He Was Both Strong And Weak

From the very beginning, Samson was blessed. The Bible says,The child grew and the Lord blessed him. And the Lord’s power began to strengthen him…” (Judges 13:24-25)

As a teenager, he probably won the “Most Likely To Succeed” Award.

The Bible talks a lot about his strength.  But it also talks about his weaknesses.

What was it? He had no self-control. He couldn’t control his passions. He was impulsive. He had no discipline. He was disobedient to God.   

He was strong yet he was weak at the same time.

Choose Your Spouse Well Or Don’t Choose At All

One of his biggest mistakes: Samson chose the wrong woman for his life. Delilah was a beautiful, but ungodly and unfaithful woman. She didn’t love him, she needed him. (I’ve seen so many people get hurt when they confuse neediness with love.) In the end, she deceived him and sold him to the enemy.

Let me insert this very important message to single people: Choosing whom you’ll marry is the biggest decision that will spell the difference between your happiness and misery. (I would rather that you not be married than be married to the wrong person.)

But because Samson had very little self-control, he didn’t think too much about his choices. He just saw she was pretty and that was enough for him.

Samson’s life started gloriously. But his life ended terribly. The Bible says that this strong man ended up a slave, his two eyes gouged out from their sockets, his arms, legs, and neck chained like he was an animal, working for his enemy until his last breath (Judges 16:28-30).

Samson started strong but finished wrong. 

Let me tell you why….

Capacity And Character

To succeed in life, you need two things: Capacity and Character. 

Samson had capacity. He didn’t have character.

Capacity is what you do. Character is who you are.

Capacity is your abilities. Skills. Gifts. Talents.

Character is your old fashioned virtues. 

The best definition I read about Character? Character is who you are when no one is watching.

I compare capacity to the car and character to the fuel in the car. The car can be a Porsche or a Jaguar or a Lamborghini. But it doesn’t matter. I don’t care how powerful the car is, without fuel, it won’t go anywhere. 

In the same way, your capacity can be incredible. But if you have no character, you won’t go anywhere too.

       Yes, you can enjoy short-term success if you have capacity. But you can enjoy long-term success only if you have character.

Henry, Harry, and Halimaw

       Do you want to know your long-term impact in the lives of people? Here’s the formula: Your character multiplies your capacity.

Let me explain this formula by telling you about three fictional friends: Henry, Harry, and Halimaw

Meet Henry. He’s not a very good speaker. His intelligence is below average. If we’re to give a number for his capacity from 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, his capacity is a 3.

But Henry’s character is superb. He’s honest, trustworthy, faithful, loyal, and loving. His character is a 10.

His long-term impact in people’s lives? 3 x 10 = 30.

Meet Harry. Harry is a fantastic speaker. He is a brilliant guy. He’s a born-leader.   He attracts people to himself like bees to honey. No doubt about it, his capacity is a 10.

But Harry has character issues. He’s dishonest.   He doesn’t have self-control. His character is a 0.

His long-term impact in people’s lives? 10 x 0 = 0.

The world worships capacity. We overemphasize it. But without character, all capacity is useless.

       Can I introduce you to a third fellow?

       Meet Halimaw. Halimaw is like Harry—he’s as brilliant, charismatic, and gifted. His capacity is also a 10.

       But Halimaw is an immoral man. He’s not only dishonest, he abuses the goodness of people. His character isn’t 0, it’s -10.

       His long-term impact? 10 x -10 = -100.

       My point? Capacity without character is very dangerous.

       The despots of the world are like Halimaw—leaders like Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, etc.,—highly gifted men who killed millions of people.

       Alas, scandalous religious leaders are like Halimaw too. They cause others to lose their faith.

       One story comes to mind…

The Scandal Of The Church

I read the story of a priest who started a congregation of priests. This priest was known to be a very holy man. At least, that was the PR image about him. (The congregation had a rule never to speak negatively about their founder.) 

At one point, his congregation was the fastest-growing congregation of priests in the Catholic Church. Because of its conservative theology, it was the “darling” of the Vatican.

       No doubt about it, his capacities were sterling. He was a fantastic organizer. He was an incredible leader. He was perhaps the greatest fundraiser in modern Catholic history.

       But then the shocking news came out: Several seminarians accused him of sexual abuse. He was also sleeping with at least three women, possibly six, and had children with them. Worse, his own kids accuse him of abusing them too.

He’s also accused of bribing Cardinals with millions of dollars—to buy their favor and silence—amidst the growing accusations against him.

Finally, Pope Benedict asked him to step down and go on retreat to spend the rest of his life in penance for his sins.

Just like Samson—he started strong, he finished wrong.

No One Is Exempt

Why did I research about the scandal above?

To scare myself.

Because what happened to that priest can happen to me too. 

       I’ve been a lay religious leader for 30+ years now. I stand on stage in front of thousands of people. I speak to hundreds of thousands more via media. And I know the great temptations that come with my position. The big three are sex, money, and power. 

Sex. Many times, I’m surrounded with adoring beautiful women. They’re part of my audience. With my position of trust, it would be easy for me to seduce a woman. 

But I thank God for my strong marriage. My wife is one of my greatest protections. I also thank God for my close friends that I meet regularly in “meetings of openness and accountability” (We call them Caring Groups.)

Money.  I could exploit my authority and “borrow” from the community fund to buy myself a luxury car or build a mansion. Who’s to check me?  

Thankfully, I don’t touch the money of the community. All our funds are in the hands of our finance team, audited by SGV. Our accounting books are transparent and anyone can check them.

Power. I can also go on a power trip and be a dictator, telling everyone, “I’m your spiritual leader.   If you obey me, you obey God. What I say is what God wants you to do.” 

To protect myself from this temptation, I’ve always surrounded myself with a team of co-leaders. I never lead alone. And anyone of these leaders has my permission to tell me, anytime, “Bo, you’re wrong!”

I thank God I’m scared. Because that keeps me on my toes. It keeps me alert and sober.

       To close, let me share with you a spiritual tool that has helped me so much in walking the straight path: I fix my gaze on the Finish Line.

Fix Your Eyes On The Finish Line

Someone once said, “Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”

Let me Christianize this statement.

First, dream as if you’ll live forever. Because you have an eternal soul. And that soul will continue to serve God in Heaven. (Talk about long-term!)

I repeat: Life isn’t a sprint but a marathon. 

Researches made a huge study consisting of thousands of people—on why some are successful and others unsuccessful. These Researchers discovered that the key difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the timeframe of their thinking. The longer their timeframe is, the more successful they are. Unsuccessful people think short-term. Successful people think long-term.

This is so true.

Poor people think what they’ll eat today.

Middle-class people think about the next few years.

Very rich people plan 50 years down the road.

But I’m inviting you to think longer than that.

Think eternity.

       Be a long-term person.

But even if you’re a long-term person, you need to live as if you’ll die today. 

Huh? Isn’t that contradictory?

No, it isn’t.

Here’s the point: Always aim for the finish line. But that finish line could happen anytime. It could happen today.

How would you live if an angel appeared in front of you and told you right now, “You’ll die tonight. You have 12 hours to go…”

How would you live in the next 12 hours?

Would you act differently? Speak differently?

Would you be a person of character?

Would you be more humble? More loving? More unselfish? More faithful? 

Will you hug your parents? Will you spend more time with your kids? Will you tell your spouse you love her?

Will you be more patient when you drive in traffic?

Will you be more forgiving to those who hurt you?

Will you be the best, most excellent, most loving human being you can ever become?

Friend, live as if you’ll die today. 

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez